Thus the child who is not loved by his parents will always assume himself or herself to be unlovable rather than see the parents as deficient in their capacity to love.
… the giving up of personality traits, well-established patterns of behaviors, ideologies, and even whole life styles. These are major forms of giving up that are required if one is to travel very far on the journey of life.
the “secret” is the central wisdom of
religion… this discipline has been well described by the theologian
Sam Keen in To a Dancing God …
Allen Wheeli, chapter “freedom and necessity” in book How people change (1973)